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Wednesday, February 16 2005

Jon Kennedy, webmaster

A woman's perspective

After I indicated earlier that I was winding up the discussion of sexualizing our culture, a reader asked me to consider the women's perspective. She wrote:

Interesting Jonal today. When people complain about how no one has any self-respect, i.e.; the sexual free-or-all on our campuses, maybe some of the blame should be on people who use terms like "snack jerky" to describe women. That to me is just as offensive as hearing the term "tube steak" to label men. If men—all men—were a little more respecting of women as well as themselves there would be no need to have "guard dogs posted" to protect women from them.

Unfortunately for women, life is a perpetual mating season. We are always under sexual attack, be it verbal, emotional, or physical and through the media. We have been battling men to "ease up" on us since time began. But they don't. Sexuality has always been a war of sorts. The only problem with the war was, the men had all the weapons. Their animal instinct was and is to jump, hump and use everyone and anyone they could and to hell with the women left behind to carry the emotional baggage because it's a well known fact that most men consider sex a physical thing and not the emotional event that women consider it to be.

Unfortunately for today's young women...they have decided to even out the battlefield by "playing the game." Men have always reduced sex to the physical...don't complain because women now have, too. I guess what I'm saying is: Women couldn't teach men to be emotional, so women learned to be physical, and now it means nothing to anyone.

While considering how I could write the women's perspective, I asked for some more ideas, to which the correspondent added these well-put talking points:

Here are some (more) thoughts on the subject of women under sexual assault.

1. Women are under sexual assault via the media. a. Rap music, where they're called "ho's," bitches, and worse. b. Advertising geared to "getting" and "scoring" women. c. Porn... WOMEN are reduced to the level of animals (and I think you know what I mean).

2. In the workplace, it's difficult if not impossible to be friends with men. a. Some men often misinterpret friendliness as a sexual overture, i.e., "If you're friendly...you're fair game."

3. Sleeping around has become so common place; sex in general is reduced to having no importance or emotional attachment. Men want to marry "pure" women but they don't want to protect, much less accept, the purity of women. The line: "If you loved me..you would" was used as a weapon against girls. And the reply of the beleagered female became, "If you loved me, you wouldn't ask."

4. We don't give sex and sexuality the respect it deserves. Instead of the situation being, No sex until we "feel good" (engaged/ married/ or at least "committted") about each other, we have a situation where it's, "we'll have sex and maybe we'll feel good about each other." To me, a relationship—a good relationship—should be like a good book. The sex is at the end of the book. If you have sex after page one, it becomes the end of the story, and all the "good" stuff like learning to "like" each other and getting to really know each other is missed. What self-respecting man or woman wants to have a relationship with someone who has "been everywhere" and "done everything."

I hope I made some sense with all this.

Well said, and better than I could have.

Webmaster Jon Kennedy 

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