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Thursday, June 14 2001

Friends

Friendship is such a complicated area of life that lends itself to endless riffs and tangents in thought and reexamination that it's impossible to know where to begin.

Yesterday I said I have no one to go to a movie with. It's true to a point, but there are also mitigating points as well. On one hand, I don't really want anyone to go to the movies with. On the other hand, if I had the right friend to spend time with, I'd want to go to movies constantly.

I've had friendships like that. They consume much of your life, you lose yourself and don't care. When you're "normal" you would never have time to do the things such friendships demand, but when the friendship is in full bloom you don't miss the wasted time. You know to the contrary that such friendship is so precious that no time invested in it is wasted.

It's probably a lot like falling in love, infatuation, a crush, only different.

My last one was about a decade ago. I was 50ish, she was 24 or so. From our first meeting we clicked. If I said the chemistry was right you'd get the wrong idea. It was never anything but a friendship...no flirtation on either side. She was in a romantic relationship with an unjealous man but seemed to spend more of her waking time conversing with me.

My first hook was her sense of humor. She was always on, and I was her best audience. Others might tire of her shtick; I never did. I love to laugh and no one since Dick Millward (Nanty Glo-Vintondale High School '58; St. Francis College '62) made me laugh so much. She came to work at a publishing company where I was the top editor. She wasn't a writer but wanted to write; she was a skilled photographer which was an easy entry to the field. I mentored her over several years from novice to editor of one of our publications.

It had been years since I'd had on my ordained minister hat (or "collar"), but I put it on one more time to conduct the wedding for her and her man on the beach in Carmel, just before the beginning of the end.

Our big fall was starting our own business. As partners, our values began to clash (she was an atheist who couldn't believe in the supernatural; I was a praying evangelical who couldn't not believe, for starters). Soon the laughter stopped. The business failed; though we respected each other too much to fight, in our innuendoes and postures we blamed each other, and it was over.

Most of my close friendships have lasted decades. I don't give up on people or burn bridges. But when this one ended, she left the state leaving no forwarding address. I've not heard from her since...nor think I will.

So. Anyone seen any good movies lately?

Webmaster Jon Kennedy

The Top 40 Things You Will Never Hear A Southern Boy Say

15. I've got it all on the C: drive.
14. Unsweetened tea tastes better.
13. Would you like your fish poached or broiled?
12. My fiancee, Bobbie Jo, is registered at Tiffany's.
11. I've got two cases of Zima for the Super Bowl.

Sent by Mike Harrison

Five more to grow on

"We are never deceived. We deceive ourselves." Goethe
"A man's mind stretched by a new idea can never go back to its original dimensions." Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr.
"Power concedes nothing without a demand." Frederick Douglass
"The mind leads, the emotions follow." Ayn Rand
"Never be content with anything you do. Contentment leads to mediocrity, which in turn leads to disaster." Michael Leven (Hotel industry CEO)

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